This may sound super crazy, but the ideal situation is to wait until your wedding. I know, I know that is utterly unheard of in today’s society, but that is still the ideal. Just imagine if both people never shared a kiss or any other intimate activity with anyone else. Every single kiss and intimate activity was reserved, perfectly preserved for marriage. Can you imagine how exciting and fruitful that would be? I know most of us have utterly failed to do this so for those of us who are too late to wait, the next best thing is to wait until at least you’re engaged – when you are seriously committed to one person with the goal of being married. And the kiss should be respectful and brief. There is a difference between a kiss and making out. The former is okay in this situation, the latter is not. A kiss is an expression of love and appreciation for another person. Anything beyond that is dangerous.
Again, this might sound crazy to you but I’m speaking from experience. I used to think kissing for long periods of time was okay. It wasn’t having sex so I was in the clear. I went crazy in this area not knowing that all of the intimate interactions I was having were feeding my flesh (my sinful nature) and began awakening a monster that needed to stay asleep. Once that monster was awake it craved more and more, and it was a tremendous fight to keep from going too far. I still struggle with sexual urges as a result of all the kissing I did. Now I don’t kiss girls at all. It makes my life WAY too difficult and just starts me on that path that leads to where I don’t want to be…